Defining Your “Big Why” for Downsizing

As you think about downsizing, there are a lot of things you might be second-guessing. Should I get rid of this sentimental item? Should I move or age in place? What is the right timing for the process? The list of questions can be endless.

In order to center your thoughts, I would encourage you to take a step back and think through your reason(s) and motivation for wanting to downsize. This motivator is sometimes referred to as your “Big Why.” What is the main reason you want to take on this process?  Defining your “Big Why” in downsizing is important whether or not you’re just decluttering or you might also move. 

Here are some questions you can ask yourself to start defining your “Why.”

1. What is the primary reason for downsizing/decluttering? (examples: less stuff to worry about, autonomy in the decision-making process, health, home configuration, time freedom, consideration of others, etc)
2. What will you gain at the end of the process? What feeling or improvement will you have in your life when you finish?

If you’re still getting stuck, take a look at some sample “Why” answers to see if any of these examples resonate with you:

• You had to spend months (or longer) sorting through decades of possessions when a relative passed away and you don’t want to inconvenience your relatives in the same way.
• You are feeling isolated in your home out in the country and think you might feel better somewhere less rural in this stage of life.
• You feel a strong sense of ownership over your things and want to ensure that YOU are the one who gets to make decisions about what happens to things.
• Maintaining your large home is exhausting. You feel like you can’t keep up with it all and just want life to be more simple.

This small list just scratches the surface of why a person might want to downsize. The reasons are endless. AND, most importantly, there are no right or wrong answers. The “Big Why” that works for you and motivates you IS the right one.

Once you develop your “Why” consider writing it down and posting it somewhere you’ll see it every day (refrigerator, front door, bathroom mirror, etc). Eventually, you’ll get used to seeing your “Why” in that place and it will no longer stand out to you. When that happens, move it to a new place for a refresh. If you’re more technologically savvy, take a picture of your “Why” and make it your phone background.

Discuss your “Why” with others who might be involved in this process with you (significant other, family members, etc). Share it with friends who can hold you accountable and check in on your progress and remind you of your reasons when you get stuck.

You can do this! Your “Big Why” can help push you to make progress. Good luck!